Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Surprising Existence

Remember when I posted my list of 50 Desirable Guy Qualities last November? I called the post "A Non-Existent Character."

Today, as I procrastinate a little during lunchtime, I remembered that post. Seeing as I'm dating someone I'm pretty crazy about, I decided to look at the list in light of Gem, just to see where things stood.

I'm not sure if you guys particularly care about this, as it really just pertains to me, but hey, this is my blog and I'll do what I want.

Here's the original post, with new comments in italics; green means Gem's got it.

Stephanie's List of Desirable Guy Qualities (in mostly no particular order)
1. Christian - Gem is one of the realist Christians I know.

2. musician {note:  not "plays an instrument." I think playing an instrument and being a musician are 

different things.} - This one is tricky. Gem plays the piano well, but he is not a musician. But he has the most amazing sixth sense with music I've ever seen. I'll have to explain it in a whole post sometime.
3. can dance

4. dark hair

5. good singing voice

6. likes to read - And he actually does. A LOT.

7. self-motivated - Depends. But in the interest of not going completely and totally overboard complimenting him, I'm gonna leave this black.

8. in good shape - *blush*

9. knows what he wants to do with his life

10. knows how to make his dreams a reality

11. loves Disney

12. has a sense of irony

13. has the same sense of humor as me

14. knows when to stop

15. likes kids

16. plays a sport - Used to be a swimmer

17. stubborn - Yes, but in an unusual way. It's like he's infinitely patient and steadfast when his mind is made up.

18. able to converse in an engaging and effective manner with people of all ages

19. a science or math person, maybe

20. likes to argue

21. pretty eyes

22. honest {includes keeping promises as well as not lying}

 23. crooked smile

24. expressive eyebrows

25. will fight for those he loves

26. taller than me

27. tan

28. Having done drugs is not a problem, but he has to be morally against them now. - He has not done them, never will, and is against them.

29. mindful of money

30. Chivalrous. Opens doors, walks a girl home/to her car/to her dorm, sits on the outside at restaurants, walks next to the road, carries stuff, pays for stuff.

31. unselfish - He likes to do unselfish things for people, but part of it is that he likes to feel like a hero XD Sooo, not sure if this counts as totally unselfish. But to the untrained eye, yes.

32. not in the military

33. cusses occasionally and artfully - "Hell" and "damn" are pretty much the extent of it, but his comedic timing is pretty good.

34. can start a real fire

35. can tie real knots

36. good/similar taste as me in music - Mmm. This is a weird one too. We have pretty different taste in music. But...I have to say that his taste is also "good" because of simply how good he is with music.

37. doesn't disrespect his girlfriend when talking to his friends

38. can help me with writing - He's very perceptive and "real" with his help. He doesn't just compliment my writing, he points out inconsistencies or things that don't make sense, and gives real suggestions. It really took me aback at first, but I appreciate it a ton now.

39. good with directions - Freaking unbelievably good.

40. assertive - He's very careful and tactful with his words, but he is not afraid to take the lead in conversations or call me out on my BS.

  41. good grasp of grammar - Yes. However, he does the your/you're thing entirely too often.
42. hard-working

43. confident

44. understands me - He understands me in  this weirdly simple way, like it's natural and uncomplicated, even when I don't even understand myself.

45. patient {I'm not talking about the angelic sort of patience, but the calm, persistent kind of patience} - Yes. Just yes.

46. observant - Freakishly.

47. not a Yankee

48. politically conservative

49. adventurous - This is weird. I'd describe him as "adventurous" even though he's, like, kinda not. He likes adventures, but he's generally very practical and cautious--which is great, because it balances my ridiculous, dangerous impulsiveness.

50. writes letters - He does for me :)

45/50. Not bad for a non-existent character :)



  1. this is so neat! you and gem seem like such a good fit :) it looks to me like he gives you good balance :)