There are people who mourn the closed-mindedness of others,
and are angered at their "wrong" and "judgmental" beliefs. These people
declare that everyone has the right to his own opinion, and no one
should be hated for his beliefs.
But then those same
people turn around and campaign against those who believe differently
than they do. It's okay for them to be angry and want to change your
belief that homosexuality is wrong. However, it is not okay for you to
calmly tell them that that is what you believe, and you're sticking to
it.
Having different views is a beautiful and acceptable
thing--unless you disagree with those who believe that XD This philosophy always breaks down somewhere...
Anyone else
find this laughably ironic?
~Stephanie
The worst part is those people never give you the time to say what you just did
ReplyDeleteUm... YES. Goodness.
ReplyDeleteSo what you are saying is no one should get to judge you for judging others? Psst, kettle, you're black!
ReplyDeleteAre you judging me? ;)
DeleteAre you judging me for judging you for judging me for judging you for judging me?
DeleteOh good grief what a well argued point. Stephanie I thought the point of your post was how people can be blind to their judging of others, not that they shouldn't have a viewpoint. Just because people can do what they want doesn't mean we all have to agree with everything they do
ReplyDeleteSorry XD Yes, you're right. I just couldn't resist my over-simplified retort.
DeleteThe point is that people assume it is only okay to judge people on their own terms. Why don't we all agree to have different views, and not crusade against either of them? Just because I believe homosexuality is wrong does not mean I'm going to hate {or even dislike} people who are gay. However, it does appear that people who believe homosexuality is okay think they are allowed to dislike and be enraged at me.
~Stephanie
Actually I was referring to Jamie's comment, not yours. Your last comment is exactly the point I got from your post. I think the problem is both sides oversimplify the others. Those who disagree with someone else's strong viewpoint sometimes don't realize their viewpoint is just as strong. If we base our belief on what we, and only we, personally feel then our viewpoint is no more valid than theirs.
DeleteWas exactly my point, Jay. People who judge others based on sexuality (generally) are coming from a place of religious outlook. They are judging others by the standards their religion set forth ignoring that (a) the person may not believe the same things, (b) that if they are religious that should be between them and their god. This whole judging, then judging for judging, then judging for judging for judging.... Yes it can go on ad nauseam, which was my point, it's childish. If I do not wish to have others judge my words I keep them to myself. Believe it or not, not everyone wants to be entitled to my opinion. By that same token live your life according to your beliefs, I will do the same. Equality is about accepting differing opinions, not about holding another up to yours. I could care less what others think of my marriage, so long as it holds all the same rights.
DeleteActually i agree with you but I still think it's missing the point of Stephanie's post. She wasn't saying stop judging or that she wasn't judging or whatever, she was saying that the people who claim to be the most open minded are often doing the exact thing they deride others for (hence the irony title). I also don't think we get into a judging loop. We don't agree on this matter and it stops there, at least for me. If you asked what I believe about something I'll tell you but I won't try to interfere with someone else's life by imposing what I think on them. We each have our own life to live, but that being said, saying what we think isn't trying to get others to agree with us, it's simply saying what we think
DeleteJay, you seem to have an issue with trying to put another agenda to my words. I never said anyone was trying to get anyone to agree, now did I? What I said was that the option of not having others judge you by what you say is not to say it. Otherwise, well those are the repercussions of wanting to freely state your opinion, the right of others to judge you for it.
DeleteI'm okay with being judged.
DeleteI think both of you agree with me and vice versa in certain ways. I think "judging" is criminalized these days in a ridiculous way. What does the word even mean anymore? Everyone is going to have his own OPINIONS. That's impossible to avoid. It's the way we process, think, label, decide, and navigate life. Asking someone "not to judge" is just as unreasonable and ridiculous as asking someone not to breathe. However, it does make sense to want not to be hated or ridiculed for one's beliefs.
ReplyDelete~Stephanie
Yes, that was my point. I like you as a person. I like to think you like me as a person. We can get beyond what we agree with about each other lives, and just appreciate who we are .
DeleteSomeone once told me, "there's no reason to be tolerant of an intolerant opinion." She was an idiot.
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