For some of those couples, I feel this cruel sense of satisfaction at being so exactly right about what would go down. Oh, really? You got tired of him playing COD all the time? Couldn't see THAT coming. Oh, really? You finally decided that his lying to you actually IS a breach of trust? No waaay. Oh, really? Your forever just fell apart after four and a half months? Hm.
But then for some other couples, I'm devastated. People I thought had it together are also coming apart at the seams. WHAT?! You've been together for three years and have great relationships with God! D: WHAT?! You guys have been best friends your entire lives and suddenly each other is the devil? D: WHAT?! You two are an inconceivably perfect match for each other! D:
But no matter how I feel about the breakups, one thing is universal: the exes are become enemies.
I'm not seeing any simple parting-of-ways, no staying-of-friends, no taking-a-step-backs. These people are either turning on each other, or turning completely away from each other.
That's...sad. And I don't mean that in the condescending, "That's pathetic" way; I mean it in the lowered-eyebrows, widened-eyes, slightly-opened-mouth, tragic way.
To me, it makes it look like your entire relationship was a lie. One of you was NOT the person you professed to be. Someone was hiding something. Someone was ignoring something MONUMENTAL. To go from being perfect puzzle pieces to opposite-poled magnets in two weeks is just not natural; it's not real.
However, I believe there could be a saving grace coming for all this. Sometimes, when things fall apart it's literally impossible to stay friends at first. There's too much unsaid that you still can't say; there's too much hurt that you don't want to face; Sometimes it looks like your puzzle pieces have permanently morphed into those evil magnets, when it's really just a phase that has to happen.
I think the truest test of two peoples' friendship is how they carry on after a breakup. If you become swore enemies or cease to be friends...and that sticks, your friendship wasn't EVER completely healthy. But if you go through Hell with each other...and eventually find a way to stay friends...
That's what love is all about.